Sunday, July 29, 2007

Facing a Fear

"Confront your fears, list them, get to know them, and only then will you be able to put them aside and move on."--Jerry Giles
"We must travel in the direction of our fear." --John Berryman
"Do what you fear most and you control fear." --Tom Hopkins
Tomorrow morning, I will be leaving the city in a CAR, and I will be DRIVING to my family's house in western NC.

So by tomorrow afternoon I should be cured of my fear of driving, right?

I'm not sure where this fear of driving and traveling come from. I was in a big car crash in college, but no one was hurt. It just seems so unsafe, to be speeding along in a little metal box, with hundreds of other speeding metal boxes hurtling past or changing lanes in front of you.

In any case, I am trying to be a normal person and not spend the day dreading tomorrow:

"Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness." --James Thurber

Friday, July 27, 2007

Poems

As you may or may not know, I am in the process of earning an MFA in poetry. Next April, I will have to submit a thesis of finished poems. Today I was going through my files trying to figure out how many of the poems were "finished." Not many are, but I thought it'd be fun to post a few of the finished ones here; I haven't shared my writing with many people outside of D and the world of school lately. I made them different colors for easy reading and made a few comments before each one.

This first poem started as an assignment to go to an art museum and write an ekphrastic poem (a poem engaging with a piece of visual art). You can see the paintings I wrote about here: http://www.nga.gov/cgi-bin/pimage?60908+0+0 (Still Life with Dead Game); http://www.nga.gov/cgi-bin/pimage?71660+0+0 (Banquet Piece with Mince Pie).

The Dutch Cabinet Gallery

If corpses can gaze, these portraits’
faces gaze at us like corpses.
I move quickly to the still lifes—

no people, but full of life,
overflowing with fruit and flowers,
with light streaming in from all sides—

and find among gleaming tulips
and peeled oranges and limes
Still Life with Dead Game:

a plush dead rabbit and three dead birds.
They’re tied at the feet in a weird bouquet,
blood pooling at nose tip and beak tips

and dripping onto the marble floor.
This kill is fresh; the rabbit’s eyes still shine;
its inner ear’s pink’s fading, but still pink.

And what to make of this one,
Banquet Piece with Mince Pie, this aftermath of a banquet,
a crumpled, bone colored tablecloth

hanging as if half-yanked off the table,
glass like a photograph of glass, some of it shattered,
a dented silver pitcher, a candle snuffed out,

soiled forks and knives, food scattered
all over, olives, oyster shells, the crust of the mince pie
crumbled. The one thing whole

in this arranged disarray is a piece of bread
in the middle, unbroken. Bread’s the body of Christ,
the pamphlet explains. The banquet’s over,

the bread untasted. The candle snuffed out.
The artist’s studio’s unlit, the fur, the silk and fruit
he loves to paint invisible now. It’s late.

Outside, October afternoon:
the low sun’s dim beams
slant in at sharp angles,

autumnal.
Night’s not the kind of darkness

anyone’s worried about, really.

As the title indicates, the next poem came from a visit to the 7/11 one Friday night in Charleston, WV. D had just come home from a week of court and I was happy to have him back.

7-11,
Friday Night

People congregate
on the sidewalk,
talking of feasting,
for Friday
is a little holiday.
Look how the lights
inside illuminate
the bags of chips,
the candy bars,
the slick plastic wrappers’
sheen: Cheesy!
Spicy! Salty!
Chewy! Filled
with caramel and peanuts,
peanut butter and nougat!
Dark chocolate! Milk chocolate
and white!
And the beer cans,
gold and silver splendor,
promising, however brief, oblivion…
What shall we buy?
And how shall we pay?
Ah, Friday,
little paycheck
of the week.
Nothing is expensive;
the night sparkles
with plenty.

A poem about an encounter with a homeless man:

Poem with descent and the opposite

This one’s wheelchaired
on the corner of 1st and East Capitol,
legs lopped off at the knee,

clean shaven, camouflaged and crew cut,
clear eyes that I, headphoned and sunglassed-in,
don’t have to meet. Like me,

the business-casualed populace strides by,
elsewhere-bound. I glance up from my slow sinking
underground to see

a black-coated man extend a folded bill
in his gloved hand, and think

he’s somehow saved the rest of us, this morning.

This one fulfilled an assignment for open quatrains in syllabics, and one for a poem that was all one sentence. It ended up being one I really liked.

Addressee Not Known

Future tragedies
are like packages
that are going to
arrive in the mail

but you don’t know when
or what to expect
when you break the seal
which of course you must—

unless it arrives
untaped, whatever
it is bursting from
ragged cardboard ed-

ges: accident can-
cer crash flame funer-
al et cetera,
or something else un-

thought of despite the
long careful hours
you’ve spent in the dark,
anticipating

how it might appear,
the ways you might hide
your mailbox, how you’ll
try to send it back…

This last one is an ottava rima, which means 8-line stanzas that have an abababcc rhyme scheme. Another fun poem about living in WV.

On the West Side

Loud music comes to Hazelwood with spring,
and gaudy flowers bloom among the trash.
I, like my neighbors, settle on my porch swing
and watch the children playing tag and catch
in the street. A girl, round-bellied, her mouth ringed
with something pink and moist, climbs up my porch
and thrusts at me a brownish plastic cup.
I’m selling this, she says.
It’s Cheerios and 7-Up.

It’s all we have to sell—it’s for the poorless—
(a poorless man was going through our trash).

Teacherly, I correct her: you mean the homeless.
She shakes her head and smiles.
Do you have cash?
I decline her wares but give her two dollars,
watch her climb porch after porch, smile and sashay,
for sale, for sale! Across the street she leaves
the gate ajar. A second girl appears,

a taller, thinner girl with clearer eyes.
You didn’t shut the gate, she says, shuts it,
and takes her sister by the hand and sighs.
Ah! This girl has what it takes to shut a gate;
she’ll surely escape this street of grimy
vinyl siding, sloped yards, and dim kitchens,
I think. I watch the sisters, hand in hand,
walk down the hill to home—or to the store for candy.

Meanwhile on Hazelwood huge roses bloom
amidst our recent winter’s rusty trash.
The crows and bluebirds shriek and dart and zoom
down for seeds and worms, or whatever they can catch.
Somewhere close by the poorless shuffle, hum
to themselves, daydream of cash and porches.
Each afternoon I wander through warm spring.

Sometimes I hear the sisters fight, or sing.

Thursday, July 26, 2007

Summer Teeth


It's feast or famine with my posts lately, but I have to be at the DENTIST OFFICE in one and one half hours.


The dentist is probably going to yell at me for not going to a dentist for the last 4 years, and then tell me I have nine cavities.


Which is why I avoid the dentist.


Okay, I have to get ready so I am not late.

ruff ruff

A quick note--

As there is a dog-sized hole in my soul, I just emailed my landlord asking if we could get a dog-- any positive dog-thoughts you can send out toward Chicago and D.C. would be appreciated!

Thank You India


The Junky's Wife (http://www.thejunkyswife.com/2007/07/gratitude.html) wrote about being grateful this morning, and it inspired me to make this list of 11 things I'm grateful for.


1. Coffee!


2. The cat, who is taking a break from reading to sleep on her side beside the computer.


3. The day in front of me, which will be full of salsa-making and garden-watering and poetry- organizing.


4. The patch of sunlight on the floor, which the cat will move to when I get up from the computer.


5. A refrigerator full of lasagna and tofurkey and cantaloupe (and 5a: the spell checker for knowing how to spell "cantaloupe").


6. The comfy gray chair I spend 3 hours a day reading Harry Potter in (still on book 5-- it's LONG).


7. The sound of D playing the guitar every morning as I write.


8. Yoga today!!!


9. The fun day I had working yesterday-- my boss and I chatted more than we worked and we stopped at 2 to go swimming in one of those secret pools people have behind their rowhouses in the city.


10. My sister, who calls me just to talk.


11. My supportive, patient friends who still like me even though I am bad at talking on the phone.


Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Question Game!


You know those emails you get once in awhile with a long list of questions to answer? Like "what color socks are you wearing?" or "what's your favorite kind of hamburger"? You answer the questions and then forward it to your friends, who answer the same questions and send it back to you. In that way, you get to know all kinds of random things about your friends. It's especially fun if you haven't seen or talked to the friends in awhile.


I want to play that game. Let's make one up.


Think of a something random you'd like to know about your friends and post it as a question in a comment. I'll later repost them all in one piece (and add to the list so it's more than a few questions).

Monday, July 23, 2007

Small steps


I thought I was going to add two separate posts today, but I realized when I typed in a title for this post that the two issues are related.

First, I am proud to say that I drove across D.C. again today, a new route this time. I went up to Tenleytown to the Whole Foods and Best Buy. This probably seems mundane, but if you know me at all, you might remember one year ago and my terror, and I am talking about real, one hundred percent TERROR, of driving in this city.
D and I moved to D.C. on July 18 of last year. We were doing fine on the drive in until there was a mix-up between 395N and 395S. We missed an exit-- or D, who was driving, passed the exit because I told him it was the wrong one.

It was the right one.

The next hour was not happy.

In D.C., and probably in other big cities, you can't often just turn around and go back the right way. It took awhile for us to figure out where we were supposed to go. It seems less traumatic now, but it was not a good introduction to driving here. Other issues compounded my driving-phobia. D.C. has this thing about signs-- for example, the sign for your exit is often AFTER the exit. And sometimes, lanes appear and disappear with no warning. Then there are the traffic circles.

So, it was literally about 5 months after we moved here that I drove to the grocery store in our neighborhood. I got used to that and felt a tiny bit braver. Next, in December, they were predicting an ice storm and I made an emergency trip to the SW to buy a trunkfull of wood so we wouldn't freeze to death. Last spring, I drove all the way to Georgetown-- not a huge feat since it basically involves one street. I've done that twice now. Today, I drove to Tenleytown, which is not that hard but did involve going through Dupont Circle as well as several other traffic circles, one of which had no clearly marked lanes.

All of this seems silly, almost, but it's important to me because I really was afraid of driving here only a year ago. Now I am truly not afraid. I can just do it-- I can think on the spot about the circles, I can quickchange lanes to get around buses, and if I can't turn left when I need to I can find an alternate street. It gives me hope that maybe I can get over other fears I have too. It's a small step.

Small steps relate to the other issue I wanted to post about. I wanted to follow up on Troy Davis, the man I wrote about last week. He was granted a 90 day stay of execution so that new evidence in his case can be reviewed.

If you'd like to take a small step to take action in this issue, visit http://takeaction.amnestyusa.org/siteapps/advocacy/index.aspx?c=jhKPIXPCIoE&b=2590179&template=x.ascx&action=8894. There, you can read more about what's going on and, if you like, send a pre-typed email asking that Davis' death sentence be commuted.

It sometimes seems futile to me to do things like send emails to a state I don't live in asking leaders there to help one man. I go down the path of "why bother." Why bother, when there's so much going on in the world that I can't change; why bother, when it's just one email; why bother, since we're all going to die anyway.

It's a dark path.

Why bother? Well, what else are we supposed to do? There's that overtold story about the boy throwing starfish back into the ocean-- a man sees the boy at the shoreline, surrounded by starfish, throwing them one at a time back into the sea. He tells the boy he'll never make a difference because there are so many starfish. They boy throws in another starfish and says, I made a difference to that one.

The story, corny as it may be, is overtold because it's true. On my drive today, I saw a man wearing a "Save Darfur" sandwich board. After thinking, "how much is that going to really help?" I thought, you know, maybe it's just all he can think of to do. And maybe it will get a few of us to do something about that situation.

So, today is riddled with questions: why bother?

And what small steps are you taking in your life?

Feel free as well to alert us to other issues about which we might take small steps.